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One spring day, the spring of time, Mother Nature was having fun with the herb she had just invented: catnip. It was while rolling around inside, his pupils dilated, each the size of a two dollar coin, that she came up with the idea of ​​making humans. She then asked an animal to come down from its tree to use as a model, she began like this: two arms, two legs, two eyes, one nose. She decides to take it easy for once and gives him intelligence. She covers everything with skin and then takes out her colored pencils.

She has colours; she who has never worked with just one but always has a multitude. Colours fly, twirl, and apply themselves to the human being like millions of eternal hugs. Mother Nature is happy; she laughs.

Why stop before the outside? Colours enter the head, penetrate the heart. Diversity mastering art as a self-sustaining idea.

And the captured man she saw, came to life. He lived for centuries, then one day, out of laziness, he denied nature and wanted to limit the colours. Mother Nature is sad, she does not like it and no longer recognizes her work. 

So let’s help her. Let us highlight these colours that the past has hidden to the background. We are beautiful in diversity. Diversity… it’s natural. 

What Atomic Habits Teaches Us About Personal Growth

In a world where young people are increasingly overwhelmed by stress, uncertainty, and the constant demands of modern life, building healthy habits has never been more important. Atomic Habits by James Clear offers a powerful framework for creating lasting change – not through massive overhauls, but by focusing on small, consistent actions that compound over time. These “atomic habits”, much like atoms in nature, may seem minuscule on their own, but when repeated daily, they form the foundation of remarkable results. The book emphasizes that habits are the compound interest of self-improvement – tiny changes that appear meaningless at first but yield transformative outcomes when sustained.

At the heart of Atomic Habits is the idea that true, lasting change begins not with what we want to achieve, but with who we want to become. James Clear outlines three levels of behaviour change: outcome change (what you get), process change (what you do), and identity change (what you believe). While most people focus on the outcomes – like getting fit or being more productive – the most powerful transformations happen when we shift our focus to identity. Each small habit we build is a vote for the type of person we wish to become, and over time, our identity begins to align with these consistent actions. They work through a simple feedback loop – cue, craving, response, and reward – allowing us to gradually rewire how we think and behave. To support this loop, Clear introduces the Four Laws of Behaviour Change: make it obvious, make it attractive, make it easy and make it satisfying. These rules provide a practical, actionable guide for building better habits and making positive behaviours stick. 

The first Law of Behaviour Change: Make it obvious

Since every habit begins with a cue, the clearer and more noticeable that cue is, the more likely the habit is to stick. Two of the most common cues are time and location, and one effective way to leverage them is through a technique called implementation intention. This strategy involves creating a specific plan using the formula: I will [BEHAVIOUR] at [TIME] in [LOCATION]. Another helpful approach is habit stacking, where you attach a new habit to an existing one using the formula: After [CURRENT HABIT], I will [NEW HABIT]. Both methods use context to anchor behaviour and, over time, even small changes in that context can lead to significant shifts. We are naturally more responsive to cues that stand out in our environment, which is why designing spaces that make good habits obvious can have such a powerful effect. As habits form, they become linked not just to a single trigger, but to the entire context in which they occur – eventually, the environment itself becomes the cue. This is also why it’s often easier to build new habits in a new setting, where you’re not constantly battling old triggers. On the flip side, the inversion of this law is make it invisible. People with high self-control aren’t necessarily more disciplined – they simply avoid tempting situations altogether. One of the most effective ways to break a bad habit is to remove the cue that sparks it. After all, self-control is useful in the short term, but it’s no match for a well-designed environment in the long run.

The second Law of Behaviour Change: Make it attractive

The more appealing a habit or opportunity feels, the more likely we are to repeat it. At the core of this process is a dopamine-driven feedback loop: it’s not the reward itself that sparks action, but the anticipation of that reward. The greater the anticipation, the bigger the dopamine spike – and the more motivated we are to act. One practical strategy for leveraging this is temptation bundling, which involves pairing an action you need to do with one you want to do. For example, listening to your favourite podcast while exercising can make the workout feel more enjoyable and thus more likely to stick. Our social environment also plays a huge role in shaping what we find attractive. We tend to imitate the habits of three social groups: the close (family and friends), the many (our broader community), and the powerful (those with influence or status). Because we crave belonging, we’re drawn to behaviours that earn approval from those around us. In fact, joining a culture where your desired habit is already the norm – and where you share something in common – can be one of the most effective ways to ensure long-term change. On most days, the pull of the tribe outweighs personal goals; we’d often rather be wrong with the group than right alone. This is why habits that bring us respect, praise, or a sense of connection feel so compelling. On the flip side, the inversion of this law is make it unattractive. By highlighting the negative consequences of a bad habit, or reframing it to expose the deeper craving it’s trying to satisfy, we can reduce its appeal. Every behaviour has a surface craving and a deeper motive, often rooted in ancient needs for comfort, security, or approval. When we learn to associate good habits with positive emotions and bad habits with discomfort or loss, we gain the power to rewire our motivations. A helpful trick is to create a motivation ritual: doing something you enjoy right before tackling a difficult habit can shift your mindset and make the task more appealing.

The third Law of Behaviour Change: Make it easy

When it comes to building habits that last, the key isn’t to strive for perfection – it’s to focus on repetition. The most effective form of learning is practice, not planning, which means action matters more than motion. Habit formation is not about how long you’ve been doing something, but how many times you’ve done it. Repetition is what makes a behaviour increasingly automatic over time. Human behaviour naturally follows the Law of Least Effort – we’re more likely to stick with habits that can be executed easily. That’s why it’s crucial to create an environment where the right choice is the easy choice. Even small actions, like putting your workout clothes by the bed or prepping a healthy snack in advance, can shape your day. Many habits are born in decisive moments, quick forks in the road that determine whether your day becomes productive or not. The Two-Minute Rule offers a great way to lower resistance: when starting a new habit, scale it down so it takes less than two minutes to do. This helps bypass procrastination and builds momentum. By ritualizing the beginning of a task, you can transition more easily into deeper focus and flow. Before optimizing a habit, it’s essential to standardize it because you can’t improve something that doesn’t yet exist. Reducing friction for good habits and increasing it for bad ones can dramatically shift your daily behaviour. This might mean placing your phone in another room to avoid distractions or using apps that limit screen time. The inversion of this law is make it difficult, and one powerful method is through commitment devices – choices made now that lock in better behaviour later. One-time decisions, like signing up for automatic savings or upgrading your workspace, can yield long-term benefits with little ongoing effort. In fact, automating your habits, especially with the help of technology, is one of the most reliable ways to ensure consistency and make positive behaviours nearly effortless.

The fourth Law of Behaviour Change: Make it satisfying

While the first three laws – make it obvious, make it attractive, and make it easy – help ensure that a habit gets performed, it’s the feeling of satisfaction that makes us want to do it again. Human brains are wired to prioritize immediate rewards over delayed ones, which is why small wins matter so much. The Cardinal Rule of Behaviour Change says it best: what is immediately rewarded is repeated, and what is immediately punished is avoided. To make a habit stick, we need to feel successful right away – even if it’s in a small way. One of the most satisfying feelings is the sense of progress, and tools like habit trackers can help create that feedback loop. Simply marking an X on a calendar or seeing your streak grow gives you visible proof of momentum. This reinforces the behaviour and builds motivation to keep going. A good rule of thumb: don’t break the chain. And if you do? Never miss twice. One missed day is just a blip, but two can become a new pattern. That said, it’s also important to remember that just because something is measurable doesn’t mean it’s meaningful – quality still matters. On the flip side, the inversion of this law is make it unsatisfying. If we can associate bad habits with immediate discomfort or social accountability, we’re far less likely to repeat them. Having an accountability partner can create a real-time consequence for slipping up, tapping into our natural desire to be seen as reliable and competent. A habit contract, a written agreement that adds public or financial cost to inaction, can further increase this pressure. Simply knowing that someone is watching can be enough to motivate follow-through. Ultimately, satisfaction, both personal and social, plays a key role in making good habits last and bad habits fade.

As habits begin to take root, more advanced strategies can help maximize long-term success and growth. Success becomes far more likely when you choose the right field of competition – an area where your natural abilities and interests align with your efforts. Picking the right habit can make progress feel effortless, while choosing one that doesn’t fit your strengths can turn every step into a struggle. While our genes can’t be changed, they offer valuable clues about where we’re most likely to thrive. The goal is to play a game that favours your strengths – or, if needed, create your own game entirely. This doesn’t mean hard work isn’t required; in fact, our genetic tendencies simply point us toward where that effort will be most effective. Once we’re in the right lane, the Goldilocks Rule becomes crucial: we stay most motivated when tasks are neither too easy nor too hard, but just challenging enough to stretch our abilities. But even in the ideal environment, boredom is the true enemy. The danger of well-established habits is that they become automatic, and with that comes the risk of complacency. Mastery, then, comes not just from repetition, but from habits combined with deliberate practice. That means regularly reflecting, reviewing, and staying alert to small errors and blind spots that might otherwise go unnoticed. It also means being willing to evolve, rather than clinging too tightly to any one identity. Over time, habits can lose their novelty, making consistency harder to maintain. The difference between amateurs and professionals isn’t motivation, it’s discipline. Professionals show up even when it’s no longer exciting. They stick to the schedule, rain or shine, while others let life get in the way. In the long run, it’s that quiet persistence that sets them apart.

The book also warns that habits can be a double-edged sword, working for or against us depending on how they’re shaped. Rather than obsessing over lofty goals, Clear encourages a shift in focus toward building better systems. After all, we don’t rise to the level of our goals, we fall to the level of our systems. In the end, the real power of Atomic Habits lies in its simple but profound truth: tiny changes, consistently applied, can lead to extraordinary transformation. Success isn’t a single moment or achievement, it’s the result of a system refined over time, through small, sustainable improvements. With the Four Laws of Behaviour Change as a guide – make it obvious, make it attractive, make it easy, and make it satisfying – anyone can begin to shift their habits and, in turn, their identity. For young people especially, this offers not just a framework for productivity, but a way to reclaim control, build confidence, and support long-term mental well-being. Progress doesn’t come from a single breakthrough, it comes from showing up, again and again. One percent better today, one percent better tomorrow. That’s the power of atomic habits.

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Dearest Gentle Reader,

Have you, perchance, found yourself in the charming province of Québec, only to feel like an outsider in a place that ought to feel like home? Do you wander its cobblestone streets, longing for connection, yet feeling the weight of solitude? If so, allow me to share a tale most personal—one of discovery, resilience, and, ultimately, belonging.

When I first secured a position in Québec, I must confess, I was blissfully unaware that it was a French-speaking province. I moved here for my PhD, assuming—perhaps naively—that, being part of Canada, English would suffice. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that this province is indeed a world apart, one where language is not merely a tool of communication, but a thread woven into the very fabric of society.

Determined to rise to the occasion, I dusted off my old college French notes, summoned the ever-faithful Duolingo, and armed myself with boundless enthusiasm. After all, had I not always been delighted in the art of learning languages? But, dear reader, as I soon discovered, mastering a language in theory and wielding it in practice are entirely different pursuits. No amount of textbook knowledge could prepare me for the lilting, rapid cadence of Québécois French. I found myself adrift, unable to grasp even the simplest of exchanges. It was a humbling, if not heartbreaking, realization—one that marked the first true challenge of my new life.

Yet, the trials of an unfamiliar tongue are but one piece of a far greater puzzle. For those who leave behind a circle of friends and venture into the unknown, the task of forging new connections is no small feat. I was fortunate to find kindred spirits early on, but what of those who do not? What of those who navigate this transition without the comfort of a familiar voice? The bitter Québec winter does little to console such loneliness, and for one who has known only the warmth of the tropics, the chill extends far beyond the air—it seeps into the soul, revealing the true weight of seasonal melancholy. 

But, dear reader, all is not lost. There is a way through the silence, a means to dispel the cold. The key, I have found, lies in seeking out one’s people—those who understand your struggles, who speak your language, and who offer warmth amidst the frost. In this, Voice of English-Speaking Québec (VEQ) and the Wellness Centre at Jeffery Hale prove invaluable. These organizations were a beacon of hope in my darkest days, offering events, outings, and programs that introduced me not only to the city but to a community of like-minded individuals. VEQ, in particular, excels in helping newcomers integrate, while the Wellness Centre provides tailored health programs for parents, seniors, and youth alike. And for those with a heart inclined to serve, these very organizations welcome those who wish to make a difference—to offer a hand as they themselves have been lifted. Perhaps, dear reader, you too may find solace not just in receiving but in giving.

So, if you find yourself lost, adrift in this enchanting yet unfamiliar land, know this: you are not alone. There is a place for you here. And in time, you shall find it.

Faithfully yours,

A Fellow Seeker of Belonging